We’re still here and things are moving along.

09 Nov

I’m sorry my posts seem to come in spurts, it is how my life seems to work these days.

While I was missing many positive things happened for us.  I took the bull by the horns and MADE the VA get his fiduciary claim set up ASAP in September.  When our NSO from the DAV told me I just had to wait and that the VA does things at their own time and there was nothing to do about it, I was not willing to accept that so I sent an email to the undersecretary for benefits in Washington DC, yep went straight to the top. I had heard she was very responsive and lo and behold I emailed her on a Friday, I received a reply on a Wednesday that something would be done.  The following Friday we had a call from the Fiduciary Officer to set up an appt and two weeks later on a Monday he was at our house we were filling out paperwork and it was done!  And thankfully as a spouse being named fiduciary is super easy and I did not have to make any changes at all to anything.  It’s life as normal here for us.  🙂

With that being settled we are now free to get going with our plans for the winter!  WooHoo so we are leaving mid Dec and heading south.  We will be arriving back in NY mid March.  3 months in our camper, 2 months in Florida and a month of traveling to and from.  I’m sure there will be challenges BUT we will avoid the coldest two months of the year in NY and that will be a true blessing!   While we are there, a lot of work has to get done meetings with VA peeps, housing office, realtors, and contractors.  Our house is listed here in NY and hopefully will sell before the end of 2016 so we can get back to Florida permanently before next winter.

When we get back home in March we will have  just a few weeks to get ready for Pete’s Winter Sports Clinic trip.  And like I assumed, no one else is willing to step up to the challenge of watching Pete for a eight days and being totally responsible for him and his dog so I will be going to Aspen once again.  Our fundraising is going really well and I am socking away every penny I earn at my 8 hour a week job towards this trip as well.  Also working on funds for the Wheelchair Games in Salt Lake City in June.  Pete really enjoys these trips so much!!!!


Posted by on November 9, 2015 in Caregiving, Daily Living


2 responses to “We’re still here and things are moving along.

  1. marilynn rask

    November 9, 2015 at 7:22 pm

    I’m confused what’s the difference between a fiduciory officer and a Power of Attorney. Having a husband with progessive MS I’ve never heard of this. good luck on your adventure. If I remember correctly you’ll be on the other side of Florida (better side) than us.


    • marriedmonster

      November 9, 2015 at 7:25 pm

      Fiduciary means the VA has declared him incompetent to manage his own funds and named me as fiduciary. It was a totally unnecessary step for someone with a spouse. But for a veteran who does not have family to help an attorney or accountant can be named and they would receive payment and pay all the bills for the veteran and approve purchases, etc. A POA is different and allows you to sign on his behalf but doesn’t require that you do it.



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